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Fights in relationships

I have to say one of the main things that I see on a daily bases with my job is fights. We as human beings are a social animal. We need the companionship of other human begins to survive. The funny part, and the flaw to this is that being with a person to long during a day can cause a lot of issues yet, one would think that there is a better way to calm a situation down before a full blown fight occurs. This is sadly not true. For some reason people are compelled to go from perfectly fine to fights without even going into the middle grounds. What cracks me up even more is the fact that simply talking the situation over they rather fight and risk that relationship.

When I am at work and I have to deal with family dispute or some other kind of fight one of the questions I ask is "why did you not walk away?" There response is "they wouldn't let me" or "I don't know." This makes me think of how people think about their actions before the react and these cases it appears there is no thinking.

Now don't get me wrong I know that every relationship has arguments. I also believe that a relationship without arguing is doomed but arguing is different then fighting in my book. Arguing should be done were one and another can discuss their beliefs without yelling so loud that the neighbor is woken up. I also think that an argument should not be done in public. Arguing is a debate and sometimes the debate is very personal and should remain so. The next part is huge, arguing is never, I repeat never, a physical situation.

Everything I just said on the above seems to never happen. It seems that most relationships arguments are yelling matches, in the public, and for some reason have physical actions. This is perplexing to me. When I was in a relationship, I cared heavily for my girlfriend and never imagined in hitting her. I would never imagined yelling at her in public or even privately because it just seemed wrong. Whats sad is I am the not normal.

I guess one day, I'll understand this behavior better and if I do I'll type it on here. Well this concludes yet another mid night ramble.

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